In January 2019, I posted a short essay on Facebook to share my thoughts on masculinity. This was in the months following the rancorous confirmation of Brett Kavanaugh to the Supreme Court, and near the height of the Me Too movement. The topic of masculinity came up in a number of public discussions around that time. I thought some people who spoke out made overly-broad statements, even though their criticism of particular men–and even categories of men–were rooted in truth and verifiable facts. In my essay, I spoke up for the good and wholesome form of masculinity demonstrated by men I admire, and the type I strive to demonstrate myself. A good many friends who are very different in their political and social views liked what I wrote.

Recently I read a book that reminded me of the admirable qualities of masculinity in romantic relationships. It prompted me to find my essay and share it again here. I’d be please if you take a few minutes to read it.